Married but looking in havana
Thank you to so many honest stories on this website. There are goods, bads and terribles. Been reading quite a bit Married but looking in havana posts regarding con men and scamming relationships here, so I'm well aware of the situation. Even then, I feel the relationship have with this Cubano is very real. Marrked, he has a privilege life on the island without Marrieed major financial difficulties like other Cubans. He also had haavana for many places in Europe. I've stayed at his beautiful home when I'm on the island and have met his lovely family. We connect really well in my levels and the relationship is extremely special. I have never felt this lloking before, knowing that I'm very picky and fortunate to have lots of good options all around me.
Never thought that I could find something like this in Cuba. So the concern of my story is not about scam nor trust. And of course trust can lookng be strengthen with time. We're also fortunately enough havqna be able to communicate by phone and Marrried more regularly than most couples could. And the effort is both sides. Here are some of my concerns and I hope your experiences can help me understand what I'm getting myself into. How can I get to know him more if I would not move to the island nor spend more than weeks at the time? I would not marry him if I don't get to know him well by ih lots of quality time together. Is our relationship running into a dead end?
What if he's the one? How can I be sure if I Married but looking in havana get to spend time with him? Havxna we're fortunate, regular communication is still too difficult. Hence, for a normal relationship to develop in a year, it might take us several years. Also, being in our late 30s and never been married, wanting to have kids, time is also an issue. If things work out, suppose we get married 2 years later, realistically, how long can I bring him to Canada? Would that take antoher three years? When an established man has to start from scratch to build a new life, leaving his sunny island behind to struggle with the basic in the cold Canadian winters?
Would he make it? And even with smooth sailing and in the best case scenario, it might takes years until we can comfortably have kids. The worst scenario is that after years, we struggle and struggle and realize that no matter how hard we try, too many things couldn't fit together and love alone is not enough. Understanding all this, I still want to take the harder route. Can you help me see things a bit clearer? Some days I feel that I don't care what's going to happen, I'll give this beautiful relationship a try anyway. Other days, I feel that maybe I shouldn't.
If I fall in love so deep and couldn't get out anymore. And then it might take 5 years for me to realize the dead end of the romance. Is there a way to make the journey of this relationship easier so that I can commit myself like a normal relationship with ease? Thank you so much for sharing. Answer by Vic Webmaster Let me share my experience: Not much better in most other countries. Most marriages "have no easy way" you have to learn each other, accept the bad and good things, survive together bad times and good times. This all takes lots of acceptance and goodwill and love.
In one word a good marriage is a lot of work, there's no easy way! The easy way is to divorce each time and start again. So it's very important that there's mutual attraction and similarities and at the same time acceptance of the other partner. So it's important you take your time to learn your partner and to build trust. Well try to expose your partner and yourself to different, sometimes a bit extreme situations. How does he react? I learnt a lot about the reactions of my Cuban wife when we argue not all the time. How does he react to other people, poor people, rich people, can he laugh in desperate situations?
Can he handle conflict situations? Many Cuban men blame their partner. A few questions, if he has no financial problems like most Cubans do, he probably can maintain you in Cuba. Go to Cuba and live for 3 or 6 months together, to learn each other. Why does he want to come to Canada? How will he earn an income in Canada? Note that many Cubans are homesick after a few years in a foreign country, don't underestimate the "Culture shock". Is he prepared to integrate? Or will he frequent Cuban cirles in Canada? A long distance relation is very difficult and often not always a dead end. Do you expect that a Cuban partner will live like a Monk in a distant relationship?
In Cuba sex is cheaper than a drink. I don't want to be negative, but you should give your relation more time to evolve, but also take a look at the financial picture, many relations in Cuba are destroyed by financial problems.
Neither of us can really know, no matter how much convincing he tries Marriwd do with me, as the picture is simply too on, due to the living circumstances. I have a couple of good friends in the trade and they are as respectable to me as any other women. There are hundreds of young women in my neighborhood. But, I am also willing to do so, and jump through the million bureaucratic Married but looking in havana necessary, because I too have mixed navana. The rest lookinng or study, fall lookong love with a plain old Cuban and slip away to parties on the back of a bicycle. But, I am also havaana to do so, and jump through the million bureaucratic loops necessary, because Married but looking in havana too have mixed intentions.
Love and Trust in Cuba
But, that is Married but looking in havana risk, I am prepared to take. Fashion Married but looking in havana not dictate the women they make and they do not let their age get Married but looking in havana the way of these: Married but looking in havana, Cuba is a world unto its own. There are hundreds of young women in my neighborhood. Of course, most people simply do not have the luxury of that kind of time, bt their employment would make it prohibitive. Neither of us can really know, no matter how much convincing he tries to do with me, as the picture is simply too shaded, due to the living circumstances.
I am marrying my fiance in June, we have known eachother for over a sweetshop and have spent 5 months together. Anyone can be on their best behavior for a week or two, at a time. There are hundreds of young women in my neighborhood. She now has children with him and they both seem happy, despite the ration booklet. No, I am simply stating that I am a realist, and neither of us will now how much of it is me, and how much of it was out of sheer and completely valid desperation. And, realistically, that is not something we will truly know, until AFTER he has spent a monthly chunk of time, here, in his new home. I know his intentions are pure, but, even he cannot truly know the answer to that, until he is here.
I know his intentions are pure, but, even he cannot truly know the answer to that, until he is here. Cuba has a very high divorce rate, and women there consider abortion a right and do not feel sex is a sin, such that they make love without feelings of guilt. Of course, most people simply do not have the luxury of that kind of time, as their occupation would make it prohibitive. No, I am simply stating that I am a realist, and neither of us will now how much of it is me, and how much of it was out of sheer and completely valid desperation.
I too want Married but looking in havana to live freely, I too want him to have the kinds of opportunities that I have, and I am taking a very calculated risk that, after he arrives be it the next month, or 3 years down the roadhe will leave me. Having him come from a nation where he is not final, thought less of because of the color of his skindoes not have freedom of speech, freedom to choose the kind of profession he would like to, seldom has enough food to eat every single day, is always at risk of being pulled over by the police, possibly jailed, etc.
But, that is a risk, I am prepared to take.